Relationship Crossroads

Why must relationships be so hard? No matter what happens they are. Whether it is a relationship with parents, friends, co-workers, a spouse or child - sometimes they are just very painful. I have to honestly say that I am at a crossroads with a few relationships that are very dear to me and it's very hurtful, you can either close your eyes, take a deep breath and move on or hold a grudge. Unfortunately I have a tendency to hold a grudge.I've done a lot of soul searching lately and I have realized that I am certainly half of the problem but I have also done a lot of re-evaluation of some relationships and I just don't know how much effort I want to continue to put into some of them. As I roll into my mid forties I'm trying to be a much more forgiving person but I also don't want to be taken advantage of. I want to surround myself with people that bring me joy and share the same interests as me and are passionate about the things that they are involved in. Life is just too short you know? I want to be spontaneous and enjoy every moment! Don't get me wrong...I definitely have many wonderful dear friends and a husband that I adore and my boys are the greatest gift - just thinking about this more lately because some of my relationships are definitely at a crossroads...

Repeated frustrations and disappointments are always a reflection of repeated misunderstandings and presumptions.


The Kramer Angle said...

Interesting post - I can completely relate to what you're saying. Sometimes we continue to maintain relationships long after they've really run their course. People come into our lives for a variety of reasons. And some stay forever and some are just temporary friendships.

Have you ever listened to "This American Life" on public radio? There's a fabulous episode called "Frenemies" you can download and listen to I think you'd enjoy.

Anonymous said...

ok, this and facebook... what's up friend... can I help.... want coffee this weekend..

I love you!!!

Anonymous said...

"Repeated frustrations and disappointments are always a reflection of repeated misunderstandings and presumptions."

Well said! It is more joyful to spend time with people that "get" us - we don't have to explain every tiny detail, and in some cases a look is enough said. I don't see any reason why you shouldn't spend more time with the people you enjoy and in meeting others that inspire and bring you happiness. Take care! ~ Zuzu